You are responsible for how you respond to what happens to you.
Some other finer points from the book:
Turn life into an inner triumph Transform a personal tragedy into triumph
w/out suffering & death human life cannot be complete
…listen to what your conscience commands you to do & go on to carry it out the the best of your knowledge. In the long run-success will follow you precisely b/c you had forgotten to think of it
The last of the human freedoms-to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s way
Emotion, which is suffering, ceases to be suffering as soon as we form a clear & precise picture of it
…it did not really matter what we expected from life, but rather, what life expected from us
…destiny to suffer, he will have to accept his suffering as his task; his singe & unique task… even in his suffering he is unique & alone in the universe. His unique opportunity lies in the way in which he bears his burden.
suffering ceases to be suffering at the moment it finds a meaning, such as the meaning of a sacrifice
discover the meaning of life in 3 different ways:
1. by creating a work or doing a deed
2. by experiencing something or encountering someone
3. by the attitude we take toward unavoidable suffering
Then I watched SkyFall and the scene with Javier Bardem speaking to M struck me deeply “They made me suffer, and suffer…and suffer.”
He lost hope, he felt betrayed by M and bit the molar to end his suffering. See how it changed him (physically, mentally & emotionally)
Of course, yoga philosophy has something to say too. Suffering is optional. Surrender.
I feel as if the book, the movie and yoga are saying the same thing.
We are responsible for our reactions and actions to any given situation.
So simple and so not easy. Excuses are fun to construct. Stories are exciting to create. Realizing we are the ones in charge of our happiness (and our unhappiness) can feel heavy and impossible at times.
There is only one thing that I dread: not to be worthy of my sufferings -Dostoevski
Your choices make you worthy. Choose wisely!
P.S. Javier Bardem is an incredible actor. I liked him in Eat Pray Love but I ADORE him in Skyfall. Amazing depth in each of the characters he played and yet a bit of him in each one too. Makes one think of the many (sometimes seemingly conflicting) beings we each hold inside of us. We can be the villain and the lover. Do we need one to have the other?